Want to Share Jesus? Do this first.

Isaac McKee —

I’ve always found it exciting to learn something new. Whether it was mastering a new pitch in baseball or figuring out how to solve a Rubik’s Cube, there’s just something invigorating about the process of learning. As someone who enjoys outdoor activities, I’ve never shied away from trying to learn a new sport. Right now, that sport is golf. 

Some things in golf are intuitive—like realizing it’s probably a good idea to keep your eyes on the ball during your swing. But other things? Not so much. In fact, sometimes you can focus on the wrong things, which ends up hurting your score more than helping it. 

Turns out, the same is true when it comes to sharing the gospel. 

When we set our minds on becoming better at telling others about Jesus, our focus often shifts to what we need to say. We think we need a polished gospel presentation, a well-rehearsed testimony, and solid answers for every question or objection. Sure, those things have considerable value. But there’s something that’s often more important—something that makes all the rest work better. 

Ready for it? 

It’s listening. 

Yep. Listening. 

If I’m honest, listening doesn’t come naturally to me. Much like trying out a new golf swing, it feels awkward at first. I want to talk. I want to tell people what I think. I want them to know about my Jesus. But I’m learning that, when it comes to helping others embrace our Savior, often the best place to start is by listening. 

Here’s why: 

1. Listening shows you care. 
A friend once told me that one of the deepest ways we show love is by simply listening. And I think he was right. When you take time to truly listen to someone, they often open up and share even more. It’s a simple act that says, “You matter to me.” 

2. Listening helps people think for themselves. 
In the Gospel of John, two men start following Jesus from a distance. Eventually, Jesus turns and asks them, “What do you want?” Now, Jesus could’ve told them exactly why they were following Him—He already knew. But instead, He let them put words to their desire. He asked, and then He listened. Listening gives others space to reflect and engage at a deeper level. 

3. Listening opens the door for people to hear you. 
Have you ever asked someone, “How was your weekend?” After they respond, they usually ask you the same question—especially if they sensed you genuinely cared. That’s why, before sharing your testimony or talking about Jesus, it often works best to ask about your friend’s spiritual journey and then listen well. 

I still have a lot to learn about listening, just like I have plenty to learn about swinging a golf club. But here’s what I’ve noticed: the more I listen, the more opportunities I have to talk about Jesus—and in a way that actually engages others. 

So give it a shot. Practice listening. You may find, like I have, that it’s the unexpected skill that takes your conversations—and your relationships—to a whole new level. 

Isaac Mckee is on the staff of Search Dallas. He has two amazing parents and two beautiful younger sisters. He loves watching, playing, and coaching any and all sports—and let’s not forget hunting and fishing! Above all, Isaac has a deep heart for people and helping them navigate life.